Responses to "Boys"

I received a couple of responses to this post that I wanted to share with you because they made a difference in my thoughts and my heart regarding my son. They moved me to talk with him in a way I haven't talked to him in quite a while. Thank you so much Dawn and Ginger for your thoughts and wisdom.

From Dawn:

Ev…what a son cannot share outright with his mom, he shares deep inside his heart. I know this for a fact because I have a brother and my mom felt the same way you did. I wasn't until my mom was suffering with lung cancer that the true "son" came out…my brother led my mom to her eternal home with Jesus Christ and we were all a witness to it. He was a master of ceremonies, so to speak! That's when I truly saw the love my brother had for my mom and the tenderness that he couldn't share with her while she was with us…that tenderness and love that was deep within his heart is what enabled my mom to go safely "home." Don't feel sad…feel glad that God gave you those sons for a special reason, in a due season! Love and blessings to you…

From Ginger:

Because you are a mature, beautifully souled, wise, woman of God with many talents and gifts I am going to speak to you very honestly because I love you so much. " Faithful are the wounds of a friend " the bible says, right? Reread the first paragraph of your letter. It was God's Spirit speaking through you and right on truth. Reread the second paragraph. The saying you quoted is what the world says perhaps but is it what the Word says? Jesus said He (and we) should make no disinction between Jew or Gentile or male or female and are all equally loved by God. Because we have God's indwelling Holy Spirit neither should we. Who do you think is speaking to you these lies which sadden and depress you? Not God - Who is able to do all things concerning love and godliness in our lives.
I have had five sons and one son in law, soon to be two grandsons, and two wonderful daughters, two daughters in law and two granddaughters. I can tell you with absolute certainty that there is no difference - They ALL really want you to hold them and tell them you love them. It is ALWAYS a mothers place, duty, and privelege to do these things.They DO want to talk to you, be comforted, encouraged, and touched. Wives and mothers are not competing or taking the place of one another but sharing in the sons love in unique and different but important ways.
Some daughters ( like some sons) might apperar to not want comfort, love, or touch but ALL normal humans are initially made by the Lord to need, seek, and desire fullfillment of these needs.

Thank you for the words of encouragement and wisdom, I have already taken them to heart and acted on them.

Love,
Ev